Human interactions are exhausting.
Now, this is gonna be a little difficult, so stay with me. You have a new backpack. Only this time, I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office, and then you move into the people that you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your cousins, your aunts, your uncles, your brothers, your sisters, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend or your girlfriend. You get them into that backpack. And don’t worry. I’m not gonna ask you to light it on fire.
Feel the weight of that bag.
Make no mistake – your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. Do you feel the straps cutting into your shoulders? All those negotiations and arguments, and secrets and compromises. You don’t need to carry all that weight.
Why don’t you set that bag down?
Ryan Bingham (George Clooney), “Up in the Air”
I don’t know how many of my friends do it: perpetually out on meetings and gatherings with their peers; always out and about with people; and forever in touch with their past groups. One might find it difficult to make such arrangements himself or herself, but his or her observations of others are often characterised by envy. We desire to be part of these associations, but what really is the point?
As the years wear on, and as the relationships multiply, it becomes so much more draining to keep. For me, it has become easy to give up. Two years in junior college were not the greatest, for it was when complacency and arrogance took root, and many connections were – unfortunately – severed. And now, as I trudge along, the chance meetings become more awkward too.
Maybe this is a chance to start afresh. And with renewed confidence, I’d be ready to confront these demons. Maybe.